When a couple divorces, it isn't uncommon for one to take the reigns and one to take the sidelines. The latter individuals sees themselves as a victim, but it doesn't have to be this way. More often than not, this is the woman. Luckily, regardless of gender, the "victim" can take charge and avoid being sidelined. Here are five tips to do this:
1. Make Sure You're Proactive About Your Finances.
From the beginning of your marriage to the end of your divorce, you need to be driven regarding your finances. One such way to do this is with a pre-nuptial agreement. There are many benefits of these agreements, including the ability to outline who will get what if the marriage falls apart. For individuals who are already hitched, they are able to create a document that outlines similar goals, which is known as a post-nuptial agreement.
2. Keep an Eye on Your Tax Returns.
If you're going through the divorce process at tax time, the last thing you want to do is simply give your other spouse full responsibility of filing the taxes. Communicate with your soon-to-be-ex partner and determine the best suitable tax option for both of you. If needed, consult with your attorneys and/or a mediator. This is important because many spouses will claim the children and leave the other spouse with virtually nothing.
3. Think About Your Long-Term Financial Security.
Although many people will request alimony from their former spouse, this may leave you relying financially on your ex too much. You do want to make sure that you are financially secure; however, you don't want to necessarily have to rely on a significant check each month to pay for all your living expenses. Craft an agreement that will cover the family's long-term plans, which includes your children's college tuition. If your spouse had previously agreed to pay for you to go back to school and get a degree, this may be something to try and add into the divorce settlement as well.
4. Don't Overdo Social Media.
Social media, such as Facebook and Twitter, is something that almost everyone uses today. However, when it comes to badmouthing your ex or talking about the terms of your divorce, it's a big no-no. It gives your ex a reason to target you in court, hurts your self-esteem and could cost you big time in the divorce settlement, depending on the circumstances.
5. Retain Legal Counsel.
Many people believe that they can handle their divorce on their own. Unfortunately, you never know what bumps in the road you may come across, and it can be helpful to have an attorney by your side every step of the way.
You don't have to be the victim in your marriage dissolution. The law can help you win. If you are considering divorce or your spouse is contemplating divorce, consult with a family law attorney in your area immediately to learn your rights and the law.
For more information, contact Fleishman Law Office SC or a similar firm.